Same Sex Couples Brigsy: I have found what I thought was true love. After a very bad four year relationship, in walked the girl of my dreams. She lived an hour away when we started dating. After four months we decided to move in together (my house). She claimed to be "over" her home town and found a job in the city where I live. My career is here, so it seemed more feasible as she worked construction and could find a job anywhere.
There was never an "official" move on her part, she still maintains her house claiming that she is not ready to give it up, or that there is not enough room in my house for her things, etc. During the summer months she would go back to her hometown every weekend claiming she had landscaping committments to fulfill. Now that the winter months are here and she is laid off she goes home three days a week. When she does go home, she hunts and does whatever leisure activities she wants or she helps her parents do household things leaving our household stacked with laundry that needs to be done or dishes that need to be washed.
It seems after several months of me paying all of the bills and taking on a second job to do so that we still fight about the same issues over and over. She claims she feels totally secure in our relationship and I am left wondering why I dont. Whenever she needs something, I am always there for her. I dont get that in return.
Just recently I found out that she was hiding things from me. One day her cell phone rang and the cell phone display had a nickname for the person who was calling, when I asked her who it was (it was in plain view) she at first told me none of my business then she lied and told me it was another friend then, after much prodding, she finally told me it was her exgirlfriend. She also got off of work early and went shopping with a friend without telling me and a few other events that I cannot explain. While I know these are trivial things, but why hide them?
Sexually she is very selfish also. I have spoken with her about this but she claims that she is very attracted to me but she does nothing to change things or make me feel like she is attrcted to me. I feel like our level of intimacy has dwindled (at least on my part), and I beginning to resent her. I work 24/7 and I get nothing in return.
My biggest problem is, why cant I end it?? What is keeping me from telling her goodbye? Please help!
Re:Same Sex Couples craez: geez....that's difficult. fear of change is what's keeping you there. plus, i bet you think if just those few things would change life with her would be perfect. man-o-man. you are suffering! buck up! it's time to end it! it's going to suck so horribly awfully bad, but we're all here to listen and support you. don't let her waste your time! rip off the bandaid!
