Hello from Beijing icannotbreath: Hello, this is the first time I come here. I am a chinese girl, and live in Beijing.
I broke up with my boyfriend on the first day of 2005, because I told him I have hepatitis B, I can work and live normally but I hope can protect him, I wanted him to have vaccine. He said he didn't care about that. But 3 days later, he said, he could accept this but his parents could not. If I infected him, he would lose all the things he has. He cried and cried, told me he HAVE TO give up the relationship since the pressure from his family. It was selfish if he chose me, it would make his family unhappy. He said he loved me very much, but he had to do that.
I believe deeply that life is beautiful. But I think maybe I should live alone, otherwise I will give other persons trouble.
Re:Hello from Beijing Daniel: Cultural differences make this a difficult topic. If you read other posts on this site, you'll see that most people tend to believe in some form of romantic love, and value that very highly. This could lead you to believe that if you truly love each other, then it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks; you should be together. But as you know, an unhappy family will make life impossibly difficult, especially where family bonds mean so much. If he is willing to continue to talk to his family and not give up until they see that he would be truly happy with you, then it's probably worth the effort. Otherwise, I'd move on. It doesn't mean that you'll be alone forever. It's just means that you need to find the right person, who understands your condition, loves you anyways, and is willing to fight for your acceptance.
-Daniel
Re:Hello from Beijing craez: i feel compelled to say something, but it's really hard to know exactly WHAT to say...i'm SO so sorry this happened to you! (both hep b AND the breakup) please know that you DESERVE to be loved! maybe he can change his family's mind. has he even tried? if it really is over, and you two will NOT be together, someone WILL love you and be with you one day. you will not be alone forever. it may be difficult, but not ALL people are heartless.
Re:Hello from Beijing icannotbreath: Thanks you guys. He did give up and left me. I think this is a more easier way for him, I accept it, we had a good time before, I think it is enough. Time will be helpful. I love him, the way which is better for him is also the way I hope he could choose. The only thing I am wishing now is that he could live a happy life and find a good girl who could take good care of him and his family and make his life sweet.
Re:Hello from Beijing Shanna: Sorry you are going thru this.....you are right TIME does really help.
