I'm tired of dealing with the X atalose: Okay not sure if I'm venting from anger, jealousy, frustration, or what?
I'm so tired of dealing my X and his hateful mouth. I dont even know how to explain.........
I'm divorced from a man that Ive watched deal constantly with his X-girlfriend in regards to thier child and visitation.....hes gone through some BS with her but was always polite to her, answered her eeffed up questions, if she wanted to switched week-ends fine by him even though she never gave him his makeup weekend....he'd B1tch and complain to me about it but would never say anything to her. He always made sure he was one time picking up/ dropping off his daughter at the right time so he didnt have to listen to her mouth. She would never answer her phone when he wanted to talk to his daughter, would never return calls, wouldnt let thier daughter call him, never allow extra time spent with his daughter not even 15 min. to finish watching a movie........nothing.....and he never defied her. Me on the other hand its different and I dont understand. I would love for us to be able to work together as parents when it comes to our son but I'm so tired of his SH!T.. He was showing up early for visits I was okay with that until he came once an hour early without calling.....told him he just couldnt show up like that w/o first asking.....and somehow for I dont even know what reason I was the bad one. I told him our son wasnt ready that he would have to come back at the right time, my 5 year old thought I was being mean, cried to go with his dad then and there.....I wouldnt of had a problem had he had asked first but not when he puts me on the spot like that......does anyone understand? If hes not showing up early then hes late but he doesnt bother to call....naturally Ive already got my son ready to leave with his dad and he knows what time daddy is coming so when he starts questioning me wheres daddy at and he gets antsy I call his dad I wait for at least a half-n-hour But I get B!TCHED at....I dont need to call him to question his whereabouts he knows hes suppose to pick up his son or he cant do anything right if hes early I complain if hes late I complain then he hangs up on me......EXCUSE ME.....I tried to explain to him its hard on his son to sit there waiting and waiting like that....and then because he picks his son up late he thinks he can bring him home late....I bite my tongue the majority of the time but come on.....I try to be understanding of my sons feelings when he wants to see his dad or just talk to him on the phone...many of night my son has wanted to spend the night with his dad out of the blue and I would never tell him no sometimes his dad lets him other times his dad is asking me did you say he could come over and I tell him yes but its up to his dad then somehow I come out to be the bad mother because I wont tell my son he cant see his dad because its mom night/week-end....WTF....if he has plans he can tell his son so but I'm not going to be the one to disappoint him. There have been times when something has come up and I wanted to switch week-ends with him but he tells me no because he has been getting both his kids on the same week-ends and he doesnt want to have that schedule messed up....I hate to say it but my life does not revolve around his and his daughters life my God will one weekend kill him.....at least I ask to change weekends instead of just taking his away like his X always did. Does he ever think of the extra time he gets with his son because I'm such a loving mother and would not deny my son if he wanted to see his dad....It makes me angry and yes it hurts. Then I tell myself next time my son wants to spend extra time with his dad I'll come up with one excuse or the other why he cant but its not in me to do it I did do it once early on I went rented some movies and told him that I was hoping we could be together and watch movies so he wouldnt be able to see his dad and that I was sorry....he threw an awful fit told me I was mean....I feel stuck in the middle so often.....Does anybody have advise something on how to deal with this....I'm sorry if my problem sounds minor but I'm really losing it here.
Re:I'm tired of dealing with the X atalose: apparently noone understands my frustration and thats okay....i'm just tired of being talked to like shit by my X, i've tried to please my son and my X but no matter what i do i'm in the wrong. i know that i dont have to give X extra time with our son but why wouldnt i if thats my sons desire, i know that i dont have to listen to my X's mouth either but how and where do i find that happy medium in which to please us all. I took a stand against my X at christmas knowing if i didnt that he would continue to walk all over me....but that didnt help the situation any. i feel so at a loss when dealing with him that sometimes i feel why i even bothering trying to talk to him, be nice and keep my mouth shut....i just cant take it anymore. i feel all hell's going to break lose here soon and i dont want that to happen...hes going to push me too far.
Re:I'm tired of dealing with the X sheydp: Ouch!!! I am so sorry! It shouldn't be this way, you are right... I have no advice to help except to let you know you are not crazy, he is inconsiderate, and I feel for you!!!
Re:I'm tired of dealing with the X atalose: Thank you for responding sheydp......i know others have read my post but to have a response i guess made me feel someone actually read my post and maybe not actually understood me and my feelings but could see what i was trying to get at, thats made me feel better than having no response at all. sometimes people just dont know what to say but saying anything is better than saying nothing at all....so once again thank you.
Re:I'm tired of dealing with the X sheydp: Hey, no problem. This kid thing is so tough!!! I do understand, I just don't have quite the same situation... You are such a great mom! You deserve better, and one day, when you get it, your son will see what a good man is like!!!
