he is such a jerk amola: omg
i want to scream so much
ok.....so we have this "50/50 split" with the kids......we each have them exactly 50% of the time. for the first 3 months, i am the custodial parent. that changes on feb. 1. basically, all that means is that instead of me not having them on tues/thurs/every other weekend, i won't have them on mon/wed/every other weekend. no big deal. that fat jerk came over here this morning, picked up the 5 year old to go to preschool and left.
we have this ongoing debate about where the kids will go to school. he works for the school district in the next town over from here, so that's where our daughter goes to preschool. i hate it. because he works there he's wonder-dad and i'm pos-mom. i want the kids to go to school here in our town (where we BOTH live) because (1) they will have friends that live here in town, and not in the next town over (2) no one at this school knows either of us so it's more "neutral" (3) we won't have to pay tuition for them to go to school out of district (4) it'll be easier for us when they get involved in afterschool activities (5) that other school is way too small for my liking--25 people in the graduating class--how the he!! many opportunities are there in a school that small?
then he calls me and says "i've been putting off this conversation but it can't be put off any longer" he then proceeds to just totally go off on me about how horrible of a mother i am because i supposedly told our 5 year old that i made the decision that she's going to go to school here next year. keep in mind that she told me last night that she doesn't want to go to school here (because that's what @$$hole has planted in her head). i told her that the decision hadn't been made yet, and her dad and i had to talk about it some more. he goes off, screaming and yelling at me for about 15 minutes. i politely reminded him that according to the papers, he is responsible for all transportation to and from school as long as any of them go to school in that district, yet he has asked me several times to drop her off or pick her up. yada yada yada we get nothing accomplished.
then he proceeds to continue to accuse me of my alleged affair. he is so full of sh!t that it's not even funny...i have never had an affair but he is absolutely convinced that i have and it p!sses me off because the guy that he's accusing me of doing it with is a good friend and absolutely nothing has ever happened.
he tells me to get prepared for mediation because he's going to fight the kids going to school here......he tells me to go ahead and call my "discounted attorney from the battered women's shelter" WTF???? trust me, my attorney was NOT a discounted one, and he's not affiliated with the safe house at all. he was recommended to me by the local domestic violence office. he doesn't consider telling me to "f*ck off b!tch" at the top of his lungs in front of the kids to be abusive. i reminded him that he told me a long time ago that his temper cost him his first marriage and he just freaked on me and told me that i'm using that as an excuse because all i've ever wanted to do was rope him into buying a house and then divorce him.
he told me that i not only lost a husband, but i lost a friend and our relationship is purely business (like i wanted that gdmfsob as a friend anyway).
he told me that "one of these days the kids are going to be old enough to go in front of a judge and tell him who they want to live with"......like i don't know that already?!?!?!?!?!?!?!
(to be continued)
Re:he is such a jerk amola: i hung up on him to go into the post office. come back out and there's a voice mail from him. "you need to do this and this and this and this and this and get the stuff for the taxes together". i call him back and tell him that i'll get the sh!t for the taxes together as soon as i get all the information, and that i plan to do it this weekend when i have some spare time. i reminded him that i'm working 70 hours per week to pay off our bills to protect our credit and that doesn't leave me much time to do anything else. "well you need to get that done. you never did anything that needed to be done as far as sorting out the pictures that i asked you to do so i guess i'm just going to have to come over there and do it myself" my @$$ you are. oh and he reminds me that i need to refinance the house to get his name off of it. no sh!t sherlock. i've tried. only 7 payments have been made on the house so there's no equity in it, plus i have $23,000 of our debt on top of that--i've tried to refinance......DENIED.
f*cking bi-polar jerk. things have been fine up until today....then he pulls this crap on me.
I AM SO MAD THAT I CAN'T EVEN SEE STRAIGHT......
*taking a deep breath*
ok.....i'm better now.......
Re:he is such a jerk tyrogers: DAMN GIRL. >:( He is an a**hole. I don't know what to say except do not let your temper get the best of you like he has let it get the best of him. It sounds like he is going through the "Damn I should not have let her go so I am going to make her life a living hell" stage now. But that is just my personal opinion.
Just know that I am here for you and you can call me anytime. I will call you tonight so you can vent to me. You know I will listen!
I LOVE YA!!! CHIN UP!!! :-*
Tyleena ("Ty")
Re:he is such a jerk amola: grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr.......
*still seeing red*
i'm thinking about talking to my attorney to see if i should try to record these conversations....i mean, he was so ugly to me this morning, and his temper (that he seems to have had in check lately but let loose today) just really came out......a friend suggested that i do that and was wondering if anyone else has done something similar?
opinions?
Re:he is such a jerk amola: [quote author=amola link=board=20;threadid=7060;start=0#msg56545 date=1106233818">
f*cking bi-polar jerk. things have been fine up until today....then he pulls this crap on me. [/quote">
ok, since i can't get all of this crap out of my head, i have a feeling that this is just going to be an extended vent, so bear with me until i get it all out of my system......
last night he calls me about the taxes.... ::) yes, i know i need to get the stuff together, i'll do it as soon as i can....blah blah blah. then he says "oh, i got my copy of the papers today, did you get yours?" i said no, i got them the day that it was final because i went to court and he didn't, so they gave them to me right then and there. he says "oh. ok. well i got them in the mail today in a real nice folder. i guess that's where all my money went....to put them in a folder" and was kind of joking about it. we had a nice conversation....talked for about 45 minutes or so....
then this sh!t this morning.......i swear that he is the poster child for prozac (and i'm sorry, i don't mean to offend anyone by that but i swear he needs some kind of drugs/therapy/counseling/shock treatments/swift kick in the @$$/something)......
jeez, i thought that once the divorce was final, he'd chill out..... i'm about to have a nervous breakdown here.......
i mean, for crying out loud......how is it that he can do this crap and get me this fired up all of a sudden?
i know......because i'm letting him get to me and i shouldn't. but dangit it's hard not to do it because now i know that the kids will be with him tonight and he's going to be making all kinds of snide comments to them that they're going to repeat to me and that's just going to make things worse.
grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr....................
>:( :( :'( >:( :( :'(
*ripping hair out*
