Do I Fight For Everything? LostTeacher: Have been seperated for almost 3 months. Was with this person for over 11 years. I am trying to move into my own apartment, and I thought that we had worked out a settlement with regards to our stuff and our house. I was being quite generous with what I was leaving vs what I was taking. In fact, for a pretty small amount of $, he was keeping the house. All I want to do is be able to get my stuff to move. Well, he is refusing to give me my stuff until I sign the house over to him, and he won't take a morning off of work to let me into the house for like an hour to move. He has fought me all the way, with the stuff that we bought together during our marriage. I am totally frustrated because I thought I was getting the rough end of the deal in the first place, and now he is fighting me for everything. My question is do I go to the lawyer now and fight for 1/2 of everything? I don't really know what to do. I don't want to becoming the b***h that he has called me, but I don't want to be controlled anymore either.
Re:Do I Fight For Everything? :broken:: See.. if you're already the bi*ch to him, why not take advantage of it? ???
It's not like this person is going out of his way to be nice to you, you take care of you, let him take care of himself.
Re:Do I Fight For Everything? Lumpy: Dear LT,
Gotta agree with broken here. It's not about being a b!tch it's about what's fair. He's not being reasonable so why should you? I would think that you could force the issue in terms of getting your property back as well. A call to the police might be in order. Stay Sane.
Re:Do I Fight For Everything? amola: lt....
i have mixed emotions on this one, considering that i just went through it.
you gotta' look at every angle....
how important is the "stuff".....are they family heirlooms, expensive pieces, or just furniture that was purchased and doesn't have much meaning to you?
depending on how you feel about that, is it worth paying an attorney $200+ per hour to settle who gets what?
can you afford to replace what you don't get? and would it be cheaper to replace the stuff or pay the attorney to get half of it?
is getting the stuff worth dragging on a huge drawn out fight?
just some things to think about.....i got the house and most of the furnishings, but butthead took the gorgeous coffee table and end table set that we bought right after we moved in. i started to fight him on it, but then decided that i could just pi$$ him off more by going out and eventually buying the exact same set to replace them. it was easier for me to just let him take them than to fight him on it.
hang in there......it sucks, but it will get better.
:)
amola
Re:Do I Fight For Everything? LostTeacher: it's not even so much the stuff that matters. i can start without it, and it is just stuff. i took when i left the stuff that was important. it's the fact that he's living in our house, has all of our furniture and kitchen goods and everything, and i am starting from scratch again. he is expecting me to sign over the house, and give him almost everything before even "allowing" me into OUR house to get the things i need to start my life.
