says nothing is wrong Dino: I've been reading way too many posts where guys are saying that their stbx's should have told them they needed more affection/attention/love whatever.
What the hell does it mean then when women say that "Nothing is wrong", when asked if something is wrong? I always used to ask my ex when I thought something was wrong. I always tried my best to communicate with her. I was loving and caring. I was supportive.
She denied anything was wrong always and then finally when something was wrong, she didn't tell me. She only told me when she had made up her mind to leave me for someone else.
It makes me so mad. I would have done anything if only she had said something.
Re:says nothing is wrong loshyra: Dino....
It goes the other way also. But for some woman they are scared if they were to tell you what is wrong, or what is going wrong that you may get mad and leave, or worse....(and I am not saying that you would...)
I was always VERY honest in my marriage and I still got divorced. BUT that was mainly because he was one of those abusive guys. BUT even when I would be soooo afraid that I would take a fist for being honest or for telling him what was wrong...I still did it.
Sometimes more love/affection/attention or whatever can't resolve the situation. Sometimes people let it get to far out of control and by the time that THEY realise that something is wrong it is tooooo late.
Loshyra
Re:says nothing is wrong Terry: If it helps you understand..... I went through same thing with him!
I tried to do exactly what he was asking of me.... thinking that I was being sensitive to his wishes!
He always said how he's someone who needs his space and if he's distant with me that I shouldn't let it bother me!
So I did just that.... all the while trying to make him feel loved and showing him affection and letting him know that I'm here when he's needing me!
Then he leaves and says that 'I' was being distant with him!
When you can't win..... was it even worth the battle?
hugs,
Terry
Re:says nothing is wrong Dino: She said it was too late by the time she realised it. But she said a lot of other things too. Many conflicting reasons. I can't believe anything she said.
But I put a lot of effort into that relationship. I couldn't win. But I enjoyed the time with her.
just feeling sad today
Re:says nothing is wrong Terry: I really hear you! It's sooo hard to let go when you are left with the awful question of 'what more could I have done'?!
I guess it's a lot easier if you leave first! Hope I'm not too jaded to cause that to happen with next relationship!
Terry
