i need your opinion on this---thanks!! caligirl: on a thread about writing a letter to friends and family that CP wrote a couple of days ago---i've been thinking about it alot....even before that, i was trying to figure out a way to communicate to everyone where i'm at and what i need-and after signing the final papers on Tuesday...i feel like i need to start telling people..please bare with me-i'm going to attempt to put this here --please give me any suggestions or your imput..i'd greatly appreciate it! thank you in advance!
Here goes-
I am writing because I feel I have not been communicating well (if at all) and if I haven't return emails or phone calls-please do not think it has anything to do with our relationship. I feel at this time, I am ready to let you know where I am at.
For some this will come as a surprise- and for some, not--because you either have heard from me already or from a mutual friend and family member.
STBX and I are not together any longer- and are in the process of a Dissolution.
It has been a difficult time--but am doing okay right now.
I don't want you to think that I am too sensitive to talk about it- because I know it is awkward to bring up or ask about --plus, i'm alittle tired of rehashing it- especially with the people that have heard the story---not worth it. What I need right now and I am asking for is support. Support comes in different forms- I want you to be honest with me -if you see me doing something that is not good for me -please tell me-but don't judge me, if I come across alittle curt with you-please know that i don't mean it-I am trying my best to come out of this a stronger person--
thank you for understanding, for being there for me- -if there is anythng i have gained through this experience, it is that the friendships i have and hold close to my heart, have grown stronger (hopefuly, i haven't driven any of you away...) and has taught me what friendship truly is. I thank you all for that.
Love,
Cali
Re:i need your opinion on this---thanks!! computerperson: Cali--Just read it through real quick and it looks great to me. Being stand-offish towards family and friends happens sometimes, but they should all understand after they know what's going on. All of us here need our family and friends now more than even, but they're not mind readers, we should all open up to them (in due time and with as much as you feel comfortable with).
Just speak from your heart with what you feel comfortable telling them, if they truly care for you, they'll understand and support you.
Good luck.
CP
Re:i need your opinion on this---thanks!! jen: cali -
Your letter is honest and I think that the people in your life will appreciate what it means for you to open up about this, especially knowing that you are a very private person. I think they will do their best to understand where you are coming from and support you in the ways that they know how.
I encourage you to communicate with your family and friends that don't know and to give them the chance to be there for you - you already know how great and supportive the friends/family you have been that do already know!
Good luck and be well!
Take care,
mtmo
Re:i need your opinion on this---thanks!! caligirl: thank you for reading...and responding.
i am a private person- and i know they will know that it has taken me alot to move toward this direction...it is scary..but i need for them to know- and i can't call every one of them to go through the story...its painful still and like i said before--i just don't feel like rehashing...
thanks so much for your imput..and encouragement..i want to send it out tonight..what do you think? any revisions?
xoxo-cali
Re:i need your opinion on this---thanks!! jen: cali -
I think it's great because the message comes from your heart.
Send it!
mtmo
