something to bring me down Dino: I was feeling pretty good until about 5 minutes ago. One of the guys I work with was telling me that he met a girl at a game and started talking to her. It ends up that the girl is the sister of my ex's new boyfriend. I knew she was dating him but to hear it from someone else hurts more for some reason. It's weird to think of her progressing her new relationship so quickly.
I guess it still hurts me to know that as much as I tried, and as happy as she made me, I couldn't maker her happy. It sucks.
Re:something to bring me down LostTeacher: [quote"> guess it still hurts me to know that as much as I tried, and as happy as she made me, I couldn't maker her happy. It sucks.[/quote">
Sometimes it doesn't matter how much we try, it's just not going to be good enough. i thought i did everything right, from moving to cleaning to getting a dog. but it wasn't good enough. i just couldn't make him happy, and i don't know why. even when i try to find out, just to get myself closure, he can't even tell me. so sometimes it's not our fault. sometimes the other person is just so lost in themselves that they can't function with another. it's something that i use to try to get through the days, because otherwise, how does it make sense? how does it make sense that the one person who took care of you and loved you with all their heart one minute, can completely cut you out of their life the next, with no explaination???
Re:something to bring me down Dino: You are right, it doesn't make sense. I stopped trying to make sense of it all because it was driving me mad. I know my ex had mental problems. Do I know they are the cause? Not really, even though I am fairly sure, I can't be 100% certain.
I don't want to believe it is my fault, everyone I know assures me it isn't my fault. How do you know they aren't just being supportive though. I guess I just feel like sh*t today
Re:something to bring me down LostTeacher: well, i guess we can just feel like s**t together! :P
people will always try to tell you what they think you want to feel. they just want to stop the hurting. whether it's true or not, only you know. i know that i made some mistakes in our relationship, but the difference between myself and my husband was that i didn't think that the problems were relationship ending. i was ready to do anything to fix them. he wasn't, he was just ready to run. and now, i don't think i will ever know what was really the problem, or if they ever really had to do with me. it's just trying to make it through these crappy days without wanting to just crawl into bed and pretending that you don't exist.
Re:something to bring me down Dino: you think that they would feel like we would, that they would work on issues if they had them. that they would tell us so it we could fix what was bothering them. maybe it is true what you said. they dont tell us because it has nothing to do with us. they have issues with themselves that only they can solve. that doesn't solve why they go running into the arms of another though.
i know just how you feel. sometimes i want to crawl away and stop existing for a few days. just go and hide somewhere. but they rest of the world won't stand around waiting for us. i guess things have to move, whether we like the direction or not. go with the flow or get dragged under
