Re:So Sad After The Move...Please Help TexaninNH: I know how you feel LT :( I have had my own (and first) apartment since October. I still hate the feeling of opening the door and seeing nothing but some hand-me-down cr@p I took when I left. It has gotten a little better, but it is still lonely. On a positive note, it has afforded me the time and space to really change who I am. Not for her, but for me!! My situation is entirely different than yours, but loneliness is loneliness. You never know....maybe this will allow you to do some things you wouldn't or couldn't have done before. I like the idea of having some friends over....could be fun!!
So Sad After The Move...Please Help LostTeacher: So, after less than 3 months apart, we are about as seperated as we can be. i moved into my own apartment yesterday, and it was probably the most down day i have had since this started.
it began with him not letting me into my house to get the things we agreed upon. i had resigned myself to the fact that i wasn't going to get anything, and was scrounging around to get second-hand this, second-hand that. then, at the last possible second (9am of the moving day, while the movers were just finishing at the place i am staying), he contacts my friend to say that i can get my stuff.
now, i thought i would be overjoyed with the fact that i could start in this apartment with my things, and start cutting more ties with him. but i feel worse than ever.
he was very upset with this whole thing, and i think was really feeling sorry for himself. i did not go to the house (sent some relatives with a list), but he phoned me immediately after. was very upset, crying (i think), not liking seeing my family that upset. i said "duh!", how did you think they would be? he continued to give me these mixed messages, but never really said anything about missing me, so i finally got off the phone with him (as the conversation was going nowhere).
from that point on, all i have wanted to do is talk to him, phone him, try for that one last time to get him to see the error of his ways. but i know that is not going to happen, being proven by the fact that he has not contacted me since i got the stuff.
so my dispare needs some help. is it normal to feel like i am starting the grieving process all over again? that i am missing him like crazy, and don't want to be doing this alone? i can't even bring myself to going into that apartment again yet, because it's just too hard to see it as being my "alone" place. please help. :'( :'( :'(
Re:So Sad After The Move...Please Help Dino: I don't know if it is normal, but whenever your emotions are tapped, you are going to experience moments of sadness.
I know I hate going to my house alone after I bought my ex out. Can't stand being in there alone with the memories(don't live in it though). Also don't really like being alone in my new place. I live with my siblings, but when they aren't there, it feels horrible.
Maybe you could throw a party, or invite friends around to your new place. Make some new good memories of your new place so you won't feel so alone there. I have been getting friends around to my current place as much as possible.
I still try and spend as much free time as possible with friends. I spent the last 6.5 years of my life with one person almost constantly. Now to be alone so often kills me.
Re:So Sad After The Move...Please Help LostTeacher: [quote"> spent the last 6.5 years of my life with one person almost constantly. Now to be alone so often kills me. [/quote">
perfect description of how i feel. i have spent almost my entire adult life with this person, and to be alone now is totally weird. i had also gotten used to having a pet (something that i had never had or wanted, but loved anyway), so the idea of going to this place just freaks me out. i know that it's something i had to do (couldn't keep living out of boxes in my parents forever), but wondering if i rushed it, and am not ready.
Re:So Sad After The Move...Please Help Dino: I moved out 4 days after my split. I didn't know if I was ready to move, but I knew I couldn't keep my sanity if I stayed.
You will be OK after some time in your new place. You just have to adjust to a new environment on top of your breakup.
I miss my pets as well. Pets never stop loving you.
Hang in there
