Re:STBX may want to reconcile..... mightymouse: Dear Bubba,
I am so happy for you.... if this is what you want... this gives me hope that the love and dedication you put into a marriage it's not a waste of time.... hopefuly my husband will see this... but i highly doubt it... considering the fact that he hasn't contact me at all in over a month.... but iam happy for you...
Re:STBX may want to reconcile..... TexaninNH: Best of luck Bubba!! I hope it all works out well!
Chris
Re:STBX may want to reconcile..... cloud: Bubba,
Best of luck in working through all of this. I can only imagine (I'm divorced with j.c. of a 3-year-old daughter) what it would be like to have reconciliation come up out of nowhere.
It must be stressful and exciting.
Again, I wish you the best of luck and I hope your stbx realizes the work and commitment that will be needed to make the reconciliation work. I think you know what it will take, which is good.
Cloud
STBX may want to reconcile..... Bubba: Wow - isn't this an interesting twist in this crazy thing they call life. Let me just do a brief over-view of my past year. Approx. year ago my stbx started to have an affair with a guy she worked with. They got physical, Feb. 16th/04. I confronted her with evidence Mar. 21/04. Had a trial separation in June. Fully separated Aug. 13/04. Sale of our house closed Sept. 30/04. The purchase of her new house with the OM closed Sept. 30/04. Up until 2005, no real communication other then bitterness and anger. Well, something happened over Christmas to us both. I realized I could never hate the mother of my 2 year old son (I have joint custody). I lost the anger I felt. I lost the bitterness. I forgave her though she never asked it.
That brings us to tonight. We had dinner together, well, her, our son, and me that is. So it came out, that I was correct in the feelings that she was not happy. The grass was not greener. That she missed me. She missed having an intact family. She told me that since Christmas she had been thinking of about us getting back together. It hit her over the holidays just how much she gave up. How much she has lost, and how little she has gained.
Well I told my thoughts. I told her, that I know she likey would never call me, so unless I had asked for the dinner, it never would have happened. She agreed. I told her that though it would be very hard, that I have more then enough for a nice down payment on a house if that is what she wanted. I told her though I would have to think about things. She too still needed to sort things out in her head. Where does this leave us? I have no freaking clue. I am shocked I am thinking about getting back together. In truth, I didn't think there would ever be a possibility. I didn't think she would ever realized that she messed up and that she did indeed miss me. Very odd feeling tonight. I guess I will have to see what will happen. I guess I will just ride the wave and see where it leads me.
Bubba
Re:STBX may want to reconcile..... timetobefree: Hi Bubba! Life sure is interesting, isn't it? I don't have much advice to offer, not that you are really looking for it anway, but I did want to say that you have a great perspective on life and everything that has happened to you. I enjoy reading your posts, your take on what is happening, and the way you respond. I have no doubt that you will enter this possibility with open eyes and an open heart. A clear mind and a clear soul. It sounds like you are in a good place mentally and emotionally and will make good decisions along the way. Best of luck to you...and I have to tell you, I am a bit biased, though...it would be sooo great to hear about a reconciliation gone right here! :)
Take care,
Amy :D
