Signed the papers! BigRunner493: I signed the papers yesterday. Now just have to wait for the date (2-6-05 would be 6 months, but lawyer can't get a court date until 3-9-05).
Stbx, which last week was confused (at least that is what she told me) as to what she wanted to do and contemplating reconciling, seemed so non-chalant about about the whole thing, as if she was agitated about the date being moved. When we meet face to face, her attitude is so different, so matter of fact, but she tells me in emails that she is having a very hard time dealing with the fact that everything will be final soon. If she is so happy with the guy she is dating, then why should it matter?
I signed the papers then met with stbx at daughter's therapist. Therapist says that she (4 years old) is just a normal kid going through a tough time in her life (going to therapy was my stbx's idea because our daughter was being very difficult at times with her; usually ended with her wanting her daddy to come pick her up). Well, therapist recommended a few more sessions just to provide closure.
Sorry, just needed to tell my story.
Re:Signed the papers! mightymouse: sorry BR,
but you know what... i wish i knew what to do about my divorce, he was the one who wanted one, but hasn't done anything.... so he is leaving my marriage in limbo and i need closure.... or maybe since i was the one who caught him, he feels that i am the one who will file but why should i have to spend money for his mistake!! but then again he is just a grad student with no money.... but you know what .... i don't give a F**** and not my problem anymore!!!!! he should have the OW give him the money... he was man enough to cheat, he should be man enough to end it..... oh ... yeah... but the OW is a 20 something college student..... i hope they both burn in hell!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Re:Signed the papers! brokenman: I think your stbx's attitude change between e-mail and face-to-face is really understandable. I never had an e-mail from my ex but I could read and reply to it pretty easily. But when I see her face-to-face I get agitated and angry. I don't want to look at her because seeing her instantly brings back all of the things she told me when she was leaving me. I immediately go into cold, hard business mode and don't want to talk to her. And she sure isn't going to get any emotion out of me. Perhaps that gives you some indication of why might be seeing the change in her.
I also would say that you shouldn't link how she is with you to how she is with someone else. Whether she loves or hates her new guy won't change how she feels about you. It may make it easier for her to move on with another relationship blossoming, but even if she didn't have anyone she may not want you back. I am not trying to be simplistic or cruel, just making sure you have though about that. I think my ex didn't understand me because at one point she wanted to come back and she thought I would take her back because I wasn't with someone else. There was some disconnect there where she couldn't imagine that I had a problem with her. Just a thought.
Re:Signed the papers! CoryL: You just had a pretty tough day and it sounds like you have yourself together pretty well. Way to go.
No need to ever apologize for posting here. We are all one big healing community. Post up whenever you feel the need.
Keep your head up through all of this. I think you will.
Re:Signed the papers! Chey: Hi BR,
Just wondered how things were going since you posted this?
Chey
