For Guys and Dating - CONFIDENCE!!! Wildcat21: I posted this on another topic - but it should help everyone.
I am going to be harsh here because YOU NEED IT!!!! You need MASSIVE help. Don't hate me for this it's for you own good - I was there once. A freaking love sick puppy and it was horrible.
YOU NEED CONFIDENCE!!!
Seriously dude - you have no one to blame but yourself.
Unfortunately you became a WUSS - sorry to break that to you. NO you don't need to be a jerk, nice guys are great. I am a nice guy. YOU NEED BETTER LOVE TACTICS.
I am 100% sure you called her every day. Wanted to see here everyday.
You became WAY too emotionally dependent.
AND PLEASE NO MUSHY STUFF - woman want a MAN!!!!!! Romace novel crap is for the bedroom.
PEOPLE WANT WHAT THEY CAN'T have!!!! Hello?????
You need to be TOTALLY emotionally independent. Get a great job. Go to the health club. Go out with the boys and go drinking. Get some freaking hobbies!!!! SHE IS NOT YOUR LIFE!!!
Don't call her all the time. It's called stalking. You're confused with marriage situations and dating. If you are married or engaged, yes call her every day.
Even in marrage you need to do some of these tactics.
I bet you answered the freaking phone everytime she called.
Now that she broke it off - you are groveling. You should not have contacted her. You needed to show you can handle it and that you were UNFLAPABLE. "Ok what ever you want to do, what's best"
You need to be more unavailable. MAKE HER MISS YOU!!!! MAKE HER CALL YOU!!!!!
And then NO YOU DO NOT WANT TO BE FRIENDS!!! NO!!!! You are done dude.
Early on you need to do the EXACT opposite of what you think is right.
I bet 100% you were WAY to agreeable. I bet 100% you kissed her ASS all the time. Woman HATE this.
Gifts are OK - but occasionally. MAKE HER buy you gifts. You give a gift made once or twice after she buys you something.
80% of the time treat her like your buddy/little sister.
Everyone here who has problems with relationshisp needs to go to these sites - mostly the men!!!! WOman know about this stuff - that ALL they talk about is relationships.
DUDE - going forward do the EXACT opposite of what you think is right. BUSTR HER BALLS!!!! She will LOVE you for it!!!! Throw snowballs at her - she WILL make love to you that night. Slap her on that but and tell her that was for being a great kisser.
Sure there is time for the romance stuff - but it isn't REALITY!!!! Remember - reality!!!
Go to:
www.sosuave.com
www.lovetactics.com
www.askmen.com
Google different love questions. It helps.
Go to those websites and read EVERYTHING on those sites!!! Start right now!!!!
Guys: you want to know what woman think???
You also MUST learn to read Doc Love. Google. Not he is a little harsh and wrong about falling in love - BUT, he will get you in the CORRECT frame of mind on how to deal with woman. He has a product called the system that works.
There is another guy David Deangelo you must read.
DUDE you were doing it all wrong!!! ALL guys need to read this stuff now.
In one month you will feel better and know what the hell you are doing. AND you MUST KEEP at it AND KEEP READING. No more WUSS Boy Ok??? Woman HATE IT!!!! You stink like the p;ague - supraised you got that woman.
Get this woman OUT of your head. DO NOT CONTACT. DO NOT STALK. She might call you in 3 weeks - 10% cahnce - and you tell her what you are doing - health club, changed your ways, realized you were a door matt, tell that you know wha tshe is thinking now, BUST HER CHOPS - rip her for not telling you this.
Woman will play Wuss boys like a fiddle until another dude comes around. You needed to play hard to get.
Woman are emotional and sadly you have to screw with them. You need to learn good rap - WOMAN are attracted by there feelings more than anything.
And sign up for Match.com if you have problems with the ladies.
THIS IS A FREAKING LIFE MSSION IF YOU WANT THE LOVE OF YOUR LIFE AND STAY HAPPY!!!!!!
After I said all that - Am I right ladies?????? AM I RIGHT??????
Re:For Guys and Dating - CONFIDENCE!!! sheydp: EEUUUWWW!!!! No, no, no, no, no! You are not right! Yes, do this crap if you want the bit*h woman who is the nasty kind, not if you want a real woman! A real woman wants to be treated with love and respect, and shown how much she means to a man. She wants to have attention paid her, even if it is just a long loving look. She wants gentleness, affection, humor, and good times. She DOESN'T want games, teasing, or meanness. If she stays through that it is in the hopes he will change, which is not saying much about her self-esteem. Those games are not for real men, they are for little boys playing mind games! Since you did ask, I will tell you - ask a woman directly what she wants, and LISTEN to her answer - you are right, women talk about this stuff all the time, we each know, quite clearly, what we want. You want tips on what a girl wants? Watch chick flicks, dude. I can't think of the name of it right now, but the movie that has the song with lyrics "when you love a woman..." and the guy is telling the therapist about himself as Don Juan... Women want THAT. Paying attention to our needs, our responses, our desires - and yes, that is also the way to get us to bed!
Re:For Guys and Dating - CONFIDENCE!!! jen: Sheydp, you are so right on. No need to say more. (applause in the background)
Re:For Guys and Dating - CONFIDENCE!!! Sad Eyes: I completely agree with Sheydp!!! She said it all and it's the truth.
YES..... No need to say ANY more!!! (again....applause in the background)
Re:For Guys and Dating - CONFIDENCE!!! sheydp: so, when us real women say we don't want that cycle, we aren't the little girls lookin' for the bad guy, you don't believe us?!?
