frustrated, wanting to scream... fernfrond: In my last post I have complained about having a hard time men approach me at all. Sometimes I initiate conversations, but no luck.
I have been in a relationship for 8 years, which eneded bit over 2 months ago.
Two nights ago I went out with a girlfriend (she just broke up with her ex), I noticed a guy I liked. Said hi to him, he ignored me and started talking to my friend with a spark in his eye.
It's like being in a situation where you think someone is looking at you, you smile at them, but it turns out they are looking at the person standing behind you. Then you feel silly.
Few days ago I answered a match on line.
I thougth I give it a shot, just for fun.
We exchnged a few emails, it sounded really good. He seemed highly interested. Similar outlook on life and relationships etc... Then I sent him a picture just to be fair. He never answered back again.
What is wrong!!!!?????
I feel really BAD!
I think I am attractive, but the feedback seems say something different.
:'( :'( :'(
Re:frustrated, wanting to scream... Beren: [quote author=fernfrond link=board=6;threadid=7564;start=0#msg60572 date=1107540865"> Then I sent him a picture just to be fair. He never answered back again.[/quote">
Oooh, ouch! :'(
I think there are some sites out there where you can post a picture and have people rate them. It might be an interesting way of getting an unbiased opinion. Does anyone here know of one?
Sugar Beren
Re:frustrated, wanting to scream... Beren: Oh, and as far as the "feedback seeming to say something different," whether it's objectively accurate depends on:
(1) The sample size; if only a few people seem uninterested in you, it's not a large enough sample to conclude anything from
(2) Selection bias; if you consistently ignore attention from unattractive men (by which I mean *you* are not attracted to them, by looks or personality or whatever reason), but get upset when highly attractive men ignore you, then you're negatively skewing the outcome. For myself, I think I'm reasonably attractive, but I'll bet you if I asked out all 50 of the contestants at the Miss America pageant (or are there more? is Washington D.C., Puerto Rico, etc., represented?), I'd get 50 rejections. Does that mean I'm 0% attractive?
I don't know if I'm helping. Try to keep in mind that I get technical and analytical about just about everything. Some people like it, some people don't! :)
Sugar Beren
Re:frustrated, wanting to scream... fernfrond: The sampling size makes sense. I shall be broadening...
I am invited to someone's b-day party tonight, so maybe I can test some waters.
Well a crusty, drunk guy the other day wanted to buy me drinks. But for some reason it didn't cheer me up. Maybe I should give a try to guys (non-crusty) that I would not be attracted to. If nothing else it would be good way to look at things from a different angle.
I just feel that every time I try I get burned. Maybe I still feel sensitive after the breakup. I need to grow some emotional callouses, handle rejection astride. It would be nice just to play though, I am not out there to get into a relationship.
Re:frustrated, wanting to scream... Beren: Hmmmm.... Not saying that you should be content with attention from crusty, drunk guys, or that you should start dating guys you aren't attracted to. I'm not sure, actually, what my point is!
Sugar Beren
