I don't know what to do anymore CPmommy: Supposedly recovering alcoholic, druggie STBX will not leave me alone. We had our provisional hearing on the 8th and he is still not willing to work out a concrete schedule with the kids. He picked them up from daycare yesterday and I went to a friend's house. I had two beers. In retrospect, yes, probably shouldn't have. I went to pick them up to take them home (he is living with his parents - parents weren't there). He went ballistic. Started screaming in my face, tried to kiss me, had the kids in tears. Physically intimidating me (he's 6'3", I'm barely 5'5"). Then he refused to let me drive them home. Gave us all a ride home and refused to leave. Told my 6 year old that he's taking everything out of the house - the bed, the TV, the stereo system. Continued to scream at me and physically intimidate me. My six year old has told him more than once "why don't you just leave!". He finally left.
Last night, he emailed me twice. Messaged me this morning. Has called me three times. I ignored the first two calls on my cell phone and then he called my work phone. Hounding me and hounding me about going to counseling and I need to try and his family is so devastated and no one understands why I won't work on it.
I'm just having a very bad day. I'm physically drained. I just don't know what to do anymore. He won't let me go.
Re:I don't know what to do anymore auminer: THats a real tough situation, when things get ugly... How do you feel towards this person when youre not angry at him.. Do you feel you still care for him ? want to work a things ? Is counselling such a bad idea? What do you really feel/think?
Re:I don't know what to do anymore Jennicole: im sorry cpmommy, i know this is draining for you.
have you gone to the authorities about this? if you dont want to get a restraining ordeer, at least give them a statement, so that if anything does ever happen, they will know where to go.
Re:I don't know what to do anymore CPmommy: For those of you that don't know me, this is my story, from back in October....
http://www.ojar.com/boards/index.php?board=1;action=display;threadid=5009
I don't love the man. He knows it. He has completely eroded any trust in this relationship. I have finally come to a place where I am OK with this.....that I know this is what I need to do for me and my children. I just wish he would let me go....
Re:I don't know what to do anymore dj: He won't just let you go cp...if he does that this will mean that he has lost the control he has over you. He is doing more and more to try and regain what control he has lost.
Unfortunately, I do think it is time for you to bring the authorities in on this. He is plain and simply harrassing and abusing you, trying to scare you into coming back to him. It is time for you to physically protect yourself...for both you and your children.
Best of luck!
dj
