I want my life back!!

I want my life back!! willow78: :-I am so sick of all of this! All I want is for things to be the way they were. I just can't let go! We were only married a year when he told me he wanted a divorce. We aren't divorced yet but we will soon be. I feel like our marriage barely had a chance to get off the ground, and already he is with someone else!! Every time I see him I want to scream at him and tell him he is so stupid and he is making the biggest mistake of his life![He is being very nice to me, and he stares at me like he is wishing something or wondering things. I love him so deeply, and he knows it. What are you supposed to do with all these feelings that just boil up inside?This is maddness, it has to stop!! this isn't supposed to be the way things go! Marriage is forever, why else would you want to get married? I am going nuts!! :'(
Re:I want my life back!! tupsie: I feel your pain although I was married longer 6 years (dated for ten) it sounds similar to how I feel. Its suppose to be forever. Wish I could just let go too.

Re:I want my life back!! teacherwriterguy: I get that feeling.

To me, the whole point of the vow was so that, when you hit a really tough time like my stbx and I did, that you can say to yourself, "It's tough right now, but I'm married. I made that vow and I'm going to honor it." And then you rededicate yourself to working on problems, and hopefully make it through the tough time.

I was angry for similar reasons to what you mentioned. What's the point of being married if you don't remember the point of the vow - for richer and poorer, sickness and health, etc. etc. It's meant to be a source of strength, and yet if the marriage ends so early, you wonder why the vow was made in the first place.

I know that wasn't advice, maybe just some empathy?
teacherwriterguy

Re:I want my life back!! A002702: I dont have any advice either but I am right there with you. When life got tough I felt that my wife would be there and we would make it together. No, she ran into the arms of another man (married at that) and never looked back. Wont even try. we didnt even have hard times really. I supported her financially and emotionally and she says after 4 years " I dont love you anymore". Then why the he!! did you marry me then? It was supposed to be forever. It is too easy to get a divorce and something needs to be done in the courts. Now I believe over 60% of all marriages end in divorce. Too easy to get out.
CD

Re:I want my life back!! willow78: :PSo very true!! Divorce is to easy of an out! There should be a law or something. When you stand up in front of god, your family and friends and pledge your life to someone, you are suppossed to mean it. Just because you hit a bump in the road you don't go around it, you go through it! When they said they loved you, I guess it meant" only as long as everything is perfect, when things get a little rough, I'm outta here" ! If for one minute they thought they couldn't handle a little problem, they never should have gotton married!!!!!! My stbx and I had a good marriage, I knew we didn't see eye to eye on a few things, but who agrees on everything? Marriage has its ups and downs,you aren't suppossed to give up on the first down!!!!! Where is the commitment? Marriage is sacred , or didn't they know that? Must be not because he brought another woman into our marriage(behind my back!).