frustrated clb: :oI am so frustrated right now at my soon to soon to be ex. He never called to tell me he would be late this evening. He usually does. It is now after ten and still he is not home and no phone call. I know I should not care, but it bothers me that he can be so inconsiderate. He is never this way. I feel he is doing this on purpose to get me angry. Last weekend he got mad at me and told me he was going to not be nice anymore. I guess he warned me, but still I can't just turn off my worry button. I am now more then worried that something happen to him. I am just mad. Yesterday he told he he was working late, but usually this means 10-11pm, but I awoke at 2 am and he was still not home. I called his cell phone, which went to his voice mail. He eventually called me back again to say he told me he would be late. So here we are again today and I know even if I try to sleep I won't because either I will worry or I will be mad. He told me he wanted to end on good terms, but he seems to be doing all he can to make us end on bad.
Re:frustrated CoryL: Here comes the truth and it is going to hurt.
He isn't thinking of you. He is being selfish and only thinking of himself. Typically those who get left are the ones at home worried about the ones out running around.
If he is cheating or has cheated, he needs to be the one to leave. You need to be honest with yourself about what you need and make sure to communicate that to him. Stand your ground and be strong. You've got it in you.
Keep your head up.
Cory
Re:frustrated Redhead33: As usual I completely agree with Cory.
Not to bum you out even more but the exact and I mean exact same thing happened to me. First started staying out later and later. Then finally started not coming home at all and let me think he was staying at his moms house. NOT TRUE! He was shacking up at his girlfriend's house! If you need to talk PM me!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Re:frustrated clb: We have sold our home and we are moving our sepeate ways in about a month and a half, against what I want. He wants the divorce. He swears there is no other woman. I doubted at first then truelly believed him, but now I am beginning to wonder again. Seems as if he is working later and later, he says so he does not have to be around me. Yet, whe I tell him to get his apt now, he doesn't go. He told me in the beginning he wanted to be friends in the end and maybe work things out eventually after the divorce. In the beginning I held on to this hope and in a way still do, but the more inconsiderate he is whether it is this or the way he talks to me I don't know why I still love him and want their to be hope. :(
Re:frustrated Redhead33: Hun,
I am the last one that should be giving advice but it's always easier when it's someone else. You're story is identical to mine. The actions, the words. You're feelings and emotions. STBX is now on his way for a weekend away with his tramp!
