Moving on? Thinkin: Tonight I told my wife that I may have found a place to move to but I would have to sign a 1 year lease. I don't really want to because I feel it will just make things worse for us. I'm the type of guy who can let things go rather quickly if it's out of site and out of mind. I've dealt with really close friends die and feel I'm not very much a soft skin kind of person anymore. That I think also had to do with some of the issues we are going thru. If you know my story then you know she really isn't putting to much effort into fixing are marriage. When I told her she was kind of sad looking and then said, Then I'd have to get a room mate. Then I told her that I really didn't want to go but I don't feel were getting anywhere and I feel she is only trying to avoid me anyway. So I asked her do you want me to go or do you think I should stay? She said she needed to go to bed and wanted to talk about it later cause she didn't want to fight about it. So I left it at that and left and neither one of us said I Love You.
Re:Moving on? justme15: thinking,
wish I had some words of wisdom but we all know that in the end we have just are heart to follow. Sit down ask yourself what you really want and don't give into to anything else. Sorry I can't be anymore help than that.
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Re:Moving on? slowlearner: Hi thinking, please don't think that you're alone - it's bed time in the states and there will be more people here later.
I don't know really know what to say to you, so I didn't say anything, and I think there are are a few people who read but don't post.
You're not alone, you're on OJAR 8)
Re:Moving on? LostTeacher: you have to decide what is going to be better for you.
even if my husband wanted me back, i made the decision to sign a 6mth lease because that was the best for me. i couldn't continue living with my parents hoping that something was going to happen.
if she is not putting any effort into fixing the marriage, then you need to put effort into fixing yourself. and that just may involve seperating, and getting yourself out of the situation at hand, and doing things to take care of yourself.
Re:Moving on? Just Me Now: Thinkin,
I agree with LT. You have to decide what is going to be best for you. You have to put yourself first, no matter how hard that is. Whether it is leaving or staying. Follow your heart and and work on you, and things will work out in the end. I may not be much help, but as I thought about my situation, the first thing that I thought about was me. Sounds selfish, but if you are expending energy on someone/something and you are not getting the return, you have to refocus that energy.
The time apart may do you some good, you can do a lot of thinking more objectively without being in an emotionally charged situation.
Just my $0.02.
JMN
