it's not just me! krunk79: Something really great happend today! I ran into an old friend I've had since 10th grade. She was always like a little sister to me and we hung out a lot when we were younger. She is also a mutual friend of mine and my ex's. In fact, she was a bridesmaid at our wedding. We talked about a lot of different things and just caught up in general. Then the subject of my ex came up. I have been dreading confrontation with mutual friends, because I have no idea what my ex has been telling everyone about me. Even according to the counselor, she had no grounds for divorce, and the things I've heard she's been telling people were either exaggerated or blantant lies because she needed some kind of excuse.
So anyway, my friend mentions how upsetting it is that my ex is throwing her life away (I didn't say anything to her about our situation at all) and how angry everybody is over it. My ex's best friend (who is also a friend of the friend I talked to today) is so angry about what my ex is doing, they apparently don't do much together anymore.
I still feel sorry for my ex, but it sure is good to know that all our mutal friends don't hate me, and that most of them are supportive of me! Also, it was great to be in contact with an old friend again--we'll probably hang out in the next couple of weeks
Re:it's not just me! OldSchool: Krunk,
I would say that's a pretty significant thing that happened to ya. that's cool, man. The more people get over the initial shock and look at you as a person, the better the real truth comes out. At least you have someone that can identify to your past and can stay in touch with.
OS
Re:it's not just me! krunk79: I'm excited about it! I never even hung out with females when I was married unless there were othe people around, because I'd have felt like I was somehow cheating on my wife by being in a potentialy compromising situation. So while I was married, I didn't talk to this friend often, but when we were in high school together, and even the first year or so of college, we did a lot together, and she was always a good friend. I'm glad that I can now renew that friendship guilt free because all of my other old, close friends have moved out of state the past few years. I talk to them on the phone, but it's not the same as having a talk over a cup of coffee in person.
Re:it's not just me! OldSchool: I did the same frick'n thing too when married. It was just something that felt natural to me... I'd never want to put myself into a situation where there could be temptation so I didn't go there. Now being single, I see married guys all the time flirting, going to lunch, bars with single women and think to myself, "What the heck"! How do they do that!!! Well, hey if they can do that, then god bless 'em.
It's been one of my biggest goals since being divorced, is to have actual girl friends that I could just hang out with. Whether I'm attracted to 'em or not, it didn't matter. It's paid off, cause now I have more confidence in myself just being me.
Maybe you'll continue a great friendship with her... I hope so.
OS
