Re:Help me keep my sanity Jennicole: I say next time he starts snoring, hold a pillow over his face until he stops kicking
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oh my god, this is totally off topic, but when i was little, we would go spend the night at my dads house, we had to sleep in the living room, and my brother snores. i remember one night getting up and mashig a pillow to his face and kicking him. surpirsingly he slept through most of it. so i took tobasco, and put it on his lips. oh man he woke up that time!!
sorry to hijack, that just made me think about something i hadnt thought about in a while... must call my brother now to apologize......... ;)
Re:Help me keep my sanity Cizzler: I say next time he starts snoring, hold a pillow over his face until he stops kicking.
Seriously though, if this is supposed to be a roommate situation there has to be agreements. Any other random person you were living with would hopefully respect you enough to cook their own meals, and clean up after themselves. I would tell him the fact that you have history makes no difference. He's there to help out with the kids and make your life not so stressed financially. Tell him he owes you money for gas. When it's his days with the kids make yourself scarce. Go to the library if you have work to do, just don't be there for him to be able to shirk the responsibility. Your kids will be just fine. And as for the rubbing of the shoulder's trick...enjoy it, then watch him suffer with blue balls!! ;D (I am an evil person)
Help me keep my sanity AloneandCold: Due to financial issues I had to let the ex move in as a roommate for the next two years so that I can continue going to school.
The problem is this. HE DRIVES ME CRAZY. I mean totally nuts, I come home from school and within fifteen minutes I am so tense I feel like twitching. This man does so many things that completely get on my nerves I want to scream.
1. No matter what the kids ask him he says no, whether its can we go outside and play, can you read us a book, anything, I don't think he even listens to the question, he just says NO.
2. His lazy ass sits on the couch from the minute he gets home, until he goes to bed, just sits there, scratching himself periodically.
3. We made a "deal" that on the days that are suppose to be "his days" with the kids he is suppose to do the cleaning and cooking, and I would on my days. Yeah ok well he will cook dinner and dinner only, IF I bug him, and he will then only cook something that takes less then 5 minutes.
4. He leaves everything everywhere. My daughter left a book that she was reading on the couch and instead of asking her to put it away, First he throws it on the floor, then when I asked him to please not put it on the floor he goes off on a tirade that it is there because the children do not know how to put things away, DUH I wonder who they learned that from.
5. He lies about everything, I mean dang, what the heck is he lying for, I am beyond caring what he is doing, why can't he just say it?
6. He has to pry into my business; I mean come on give me a little privacy!
7. His car is permanently broken because he drove it in the red all the way to work, then he comes back to my house and just assumes he will now be using my car.
8. He is using all my gas and spring break is coming up, instead of taking my kids places I am going to be stuck at home with no gas to get anywhere.
9. By 7 at night when I am trying to do my homework he starts snoring LOUDLY on the couch. I mean come on nothing is more seriously distracting then nasal snoring.
10. The man keeps trying to rub my shoulders as an excuse to try to cop a feel, so then he mad when I tell him to knock it off because "he is only trying to be nice" Whatever!
11. I am in the middle of studying and he keeps trying to talk to me, every 2 minutes, he just has to tell me the latest sports news, or just random stupid stuff, This after he yelled at the kids to be quiet so I can study
12. I am really sick of being quiet when his "friend" calls every night. First of all he lies straight out, she doesn't know he moved in, and he tries to pretend I am not even there.
ARRRG there are various other things and none of them are huge I guess, just all together they drive me nuts. I cannot change anything he is doing, I learned that years ago, so my question is anyone have any ideas on how to keep my sanity? Meditation? LoL
Bug
Re:Help me keep my sanity timetobefree: [quote author=Becominganewme link=board=1;threadid=9037;start=0#msg71398 date=1111077474">
2. His lazy ass sits on the couch from the minute he gets home, until he goes to bed, just sits there, scratching himself periodically.
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Hey Bug, First, thanks for this...made me laugh OUT LOUD. The mental picture is just tooooo much!
Now, on a more serious note, can you drug him so he sleeps through the evenings with you? Oh wait, that would probably involve more snoring, which is a problem already. ;D
OK, for real, on a serious note, I feel for you. I really do. I lived with my ex for two months after I found out he was cheating on me...until I closed on my new house. Those were two long months, so two years...wow, you are a brave woman. What were the agreements when he moved in? Anything in writing? Perhaps getting some of the "house rules" down in writing would help. Although if he is anything like my ex, that won't matter. I wish I had some better advice on how to maintain your sanity...but I don't. Hang in there, vent here, and drink regularly! ;D
Take care,
Amy ;D
Re:Help me keep my sanity slowlearner: [quote author=Becominganewme link=board=1;threadid=9037;start=0#msg71398 date=1111077474">
The problem is this. HE DRIVES ME CRAZY. I mean totally nuts, I come home from school and within fifteen minutes I am so tense I feel like twitching. This man does so many things that completely get on my nerves I want to scream.
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Two Years??? Can you find another room mate?
I'd suggest you set strong boundaries and make him stick to them, but reading your description of him, he won't co-operate. Sorry, but the only way i can see for you to stay sane is to kick him out.
