So...what do your SO's kids call your parents? tara: I'm thinking way ahead here -- my BF and I are *not* at the point where his daughter would be meeting my parents. Heck, *he* hasn't met them yet.
Now, should I ever have stepchildren, my parents suggested that they be called Grandma (Hername) and Grandpa (Hisname), as they would want to be called by any biological or adoptive grandchildren. I think that's sweet, and assuming their dad agreed, that's what I'd do.
But it is possible that my parents might end up meeting my BF's daughter (at my 30th birthday, which isn't for awhile, but I'm planning on inviting people of all ages), well before any serious discussion of remarriage and step-parenting would come into play.
So, what, then, should she be calling them?
She calls me by my first name, but I don't think my parents would feel comfortable being called by their first names, sans title, by a toddler. They're strictly of the Mr. and Mrs. Lastname generation (my friends and I all called each other's parents by their title and last name), although that's loosened somewhat in recent years (my friends are now permitted to use their first names, although a few who grew up with me still can't do it. ;-)).
But is Mr. and Mrs. Lastname too formal? Especially, if, someday, we do decide to marry and there would be a shift to Grandma J. and Grandpa S.?
I'd ask my parents what they'd want to be called, but it was my mom who actually brought it up. My BF and I are also at a loss. Any Ojar parents or daters-of-parents have insight?
Thanks.
Re:So...what do your SO's kids call your parents? Jennicole: that is really a sticky situation, especially with her being so young. it could get confusing! i know that this was an issue before my husband and i got married, i had no idea what my son should call his parents! i think he called them by their names, like i did. and after we got married i sat down with my mil and asked her what she wanted my son to call her. of course she said grandma, and i thought 'geez this is going to confuse the cr@p out of him!' but before i got a chance to say anything to him, he ran up to her and said 'grandma, can i have some cookies?' it was kinda weird, but i was glad. i think kids have their own way of knowing what they want, and what is comforatable to them. sorry if this has been no help!
Re:So...what do your SO's kids call your parents? Shanna: My kid called Frideon's mom Grandma Kay....that is what she wanted and it worked for the kids....and for us.
Re:So...what do your SO's kids call your parents? twetifb: What about Mrs. (first name) and Mr. (First Name)?
