X'S FOR FRIENDS? JASPER: Has anyone ended there marriage on a good note you know when you both just agree to give up and still be friends.I know i have only been seperated a few weeks ,but we talk on the phone every night we went out this weekend for drinks and had a nice time.I know he expects me to come to my senses and thinks we will end up toghether in long run.But right now he is mot pressuring me and we even discussed us dating other people with no arguements.Now does this sound wierd to you all do you think this kind of friendship could work or am i still prolonging th enevitable.
Re: X'S FOR FRIENDS? EfemII: I think it all depends on how you do split up. I was very cordial during the divorce process, and we were very civil thru the whole separation. I didn't, however, want to pursue any type of friendship, because I knew that I would always be curious about her private life. It would kill me to know that she's moved on and I haven't.
If down the road, say 1 or 2 more years we do meet up then maybe we could try to be friends, but that's highly doubtful.
Hey, if you two can be friends thru the divorce process then that's better than the alternative. It could fizzle out if one of you moves on, but for the time being enjoy the civility.
Re: X'S FOR FRIENDS? down2basics: If the split is mutual - then it is entirely possible to remain friends...however - if the split was not mutual...then it becomes a real problem.
I've tried sooo hard to maintain a friendship with my x - but it makes starting over next to impossible. How do you move on with your new life with your x in tow?
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Re: X'S FOR FRIENDS? Brian75034: I dont think its EVER possible to be actual good friends.
Too much past, too much hurt, too much under the bridge.
Jasper,
you seem like a good person but I hope you work on yourself and realize that your unhappy marriage has nothing to do with him, or your situation but how you perceive things. And I hope you hopefully go to counseling for yourself or for your marriage.
Re: X'S FOR FRIENDS? justmenow: That's what our marriage had turned into - a friendship. We were like roommates and there was no spark left between us. There still isn't. Everything has been very amicable, but there's no chance of us getting back together. We will share our children for life, so we have to remain friendly, but will I hang out with him and play pool sometime? Maybe, just not quite yet. I need some time. Yes, it's possible, but it will be a different kind of friendship than someone you just meet out of the blue I think.
