I feel horrible for my husband

I feel horrible for my husband val27: I have been married for almost 5 years, we've been together for 8 years. After we married, things changed, we fight a lot and have other issues. We have talked and thereatened divorce, but I just cannot take it anymore & I told him that it was over. He is totally heartbroken & wants to change, but I don't think it is healthy to jsut change everything for one person--that won't make him happy, plus, I need to work on myself too. Yes, I still have love for him but I am not in love with him, he keeps asking me if I am and I have to tell him no, it just makes me sad I can't reciprocate those lost feelings. How can I make him understand that we will be better apart? I still want to talk to him, not completely cut him out, but I don't understatnd his obsession over me.
Re:I feel horrible for my husband Bocephus: This might sound strange but you 'situation' sound like my stbxw.

I sent you a pm.
Re:I feel horrible for my husband Jennicole: ahh frid....great advice!

light her fire is great... i would also suggest you get light his fire... this is exactly what saved my marriage... i think you need it!
Re:I feel horrible for my husband val27: Thank You, my parents were actually over last night and my mom is making a list of things we each need to try for 1 month before the final decision. He also has a marijuana problem that I cannot overlook anymore. He tries to clain it is for medical use, but he does not have a prescription. I just really don't feel it can work, we are horrible to each other and that it's weird he still wants that. We don't have kids, but we have pets that he says he will miss. I told him he can visit them though
Re:I feel horrible for my husband Bocephus: Yeah, I reccomend those books too. Even though I read them too late.