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To my beautiful children To my beautiful children.
challange... anyone? challange... anyone?.
do they really regret it later on? do they really regret it later on?.
Your Love -- The Outfield (Just because I like the song) Your Love -- The Outfield (Just because I like the song).
~Just Died In Your Arms Tonight~ ~Just Died In Your Arms Tonight~.
~What Do All The People Know~ ~What Do All The People Know~.
somebody analyze this conversation somebody analyze this conversation.
Every Rose Has It's Thorn Every Rose Has It's Thorn.
I Wanna Grow Old With You I Wanna Grow Old With You.
revenge of a middle aged woman revenge of a middle aged woman.
numbness numbness.
~I'll Be There For You~ ~I'll Be There For You~.
~Here I Go Again~ ~Here I Go Again~.
Save A Horse, Ride A Cowboy Save A Horse, Ride A Cowboy.
10 reasons to date a hockey player... 10 reasons to date a hockey player....
hah hah.
the trust problem and the future the trust problem and the future.
This happened Christmas Day This happened Christmas Day.
Waaahooo! Date number 2! Waaahooo! Date number 2!.
Facing the new year. Facing the new year..
A New Year Has Begun A New Year Has Begun.
The last 3 days The last 3 days.
To my dead wife To my dead wife.
Crazy As Me Crazy As Me.
Two Highways Two Highways.
I Can Let Go Now I Can Let Go Now.
I don't know how I don't know how.
If I make it through tonite If I make it through tonite.
Affirming the Good ~ Melodie Beattie Affirming the Good ~ Melodie Beattie.
Seeing the wrong guy with the right girl Seeing the wrong guy with the right girl.
HELP SUPERFAST IMPORTANT WOMAN.. HELP SUPERFAST IMPORTANT WOMAN...
Am I stupid? Am I stupid?.
why is he jealous why is he jealous.
shes gross why would he want her instead of me shes gross why would he want her instead of me.
December 32nd December 32nd.
Getting Uglier By the Minute...Change Mind? Getting Uglier By the Minute...Change Mind?.
Re:he said he loved me Re:he said he loved me.
Chat is going strong tonight Chat is going strong tonight.
Should I or shouldn't I..... Should I or shouldn't I......
Rah..random vent please igore... Rah..random vent please igore....
Divorce/Ch 7 same time? Divorce/Ch 7 same time?.
Happy New Year? Happy New Year?.
Friends? Friends?.
I seriously don't know how much I can take I seriously don't know how much I can take.
stages of grief stages of grief.
Revenge songs? Revenge songs?.
what was my worth? what was my worth?.
should i give him this? should i give him this?.
Your Daily Horriblescopes. Happy New Year! Your Daily Horriblescopes. Happy New Year!.
maine? the way life should be state. maine? the way life should be state..
2005... new year. 2005... new year..
Thanks a million Thanks a million.
Custom ordered..... Custom ordered......
time?????? time??????.
Dec was awful now maybe the future can be better Dec was awful now maybe the future can be better.
To Hardened heart To Hardened heart.
This Is My Resolution This Is My Resolution.
Thank you fellow Ojarians Thank you fellow Ojarians.
Your Daily Horriblescopes. 1/2 Your Daily Horriblescopes. 1/2.
summary of stages of grief summary of stages of grief.
a dream or vision a dream or vision.
WTF! WTF!.
what do i do what do i do.
Completely lost... Completely lost....
do they all know? do they all know?.
Found this in the newspaper Found this in the newspaper.
hard time concentrating... hard time concentrating....
kin. i have questions. do u have answers? kin. i have questions. do u have answers?.
i wonder what he is really thinking i wonder what he is really thinking.
High school sweethearts.. High school sweethearts...
Family now knows Family now knows.
Wolves Wolves.
Perfect Husband Perfect Husband.
Family life Family life.
The Tao of Dating The Tao of Dating.
Not so good, not so good Not so good, not so good.
Need ideas on where to meet people Need ideas on where to meet people.
persistent nightmares persistent nightmares.
strange... strange....
When The Sand Runs Out--Rascal Flatts When The Sand Runs Out--Rascal Flatts.
I might have found one answer... I might have found one answer....
Bring the rain Bring the rain.
Your Daily Horriblescopes. 1/3 Your Daily Horriblescopes. 1/3.
really alone really alone.
My quote... My quote....
what would you do... what would you do....
Do the words mean anything... Do the words mean anything....
I just got fired I just got fired .
Whitney Houston Whitney Houston.
My First time My First time .
I can't believe this!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I can't believe this!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!.
he brought her with him to pick up our kids he brought her with him to pick up our kids.
he seemed a little sad today what the he++ he seemed a little sad today what the he++.
people noticing people noticing.
i did it! i did it!.
what do you hate? what do you hate?.
When to move on? When to move on?.
took off my wedding band took off my wedding band.
Yet another one... Yet another one....
Three Days Grace Three Days Grace.
Heard this on the radio and had to share! Heard this on the radio and had to share!.
My Immortal by Evanescence My Immortal by Evanescence.
My Favorite Dream My Favorite Dream.
i think he has two personalities i think he has two personalities.
HEY ISO - Does this work? HEY ISO - Does this work?.
signing papers tomorrow signing papers tomorrow.
this is crazy check it out this is crazy check it out.
Forced to carry the burden... Forced to carry the burden....
Change... Change....
Re:haven't posted in awhile...need help...please! Re:haven't posted in awhile...need help...please!.
Shaving the inside of my skull (My story) Shaving the inside of my skull (My story).
You'll Think of Me You'll Think of Me.
How Am I Doin'/Dierks Bentley How Am I Doin'/Dierks Bentley.
papers are signed papers are signed.
Little Moments/Brad Paisley Little Moments/Brad Paisley.
Heartache quote... Heartache quote....
Heartache quote... Heartache quote....
Need Some Help Again Need Some Help Again.
Your Daily Horriblescopes. 1/4 Your Daily Horriblescopes. 1/4.
listen to your gut? listen to your gut?.
Re:heartbroken for the last time Re:heartbroken for the last time.
Re:watch your kids closely... Re:watch your kids closely....
confused here confused here.
My personal favorite My personal favorite.
divorce?! divorce?!.
Let Me Go Let Me Go.
Breakdown Breakdown.
How Would I Know How Would I Know.
Stonger Than Me Stonger Than Me.
a couple.... a couple.....
I will remember you I will remember you.
Rollercoasting Rollercoasting.
Cabin Fever Cabin Fever.
Now hes confused again help i need some insight Now hes confused again help i need some insight.
the next day or two the next day or two.
January 12th January 12th.
Re:Can mind affect body? Re:Can mind affect body?.
Re:New Year Resolutions Re:New Year Resolutions.
Re:I wanna move... Re:I wanna move....
Closer Closer.
An old thought resurfaced An old thought resurfaced.
Re:he blames me ..i knew nothing Re:he blames me ..i knew nothing.
Re:New redneck jokes... Re:New redneck jokes....
dead dead.
Re:Am I being unreasonable? Re:Am I being unreasonable?.
A day in the life of a DOORMAT A day in the life of a DOORMAT.
Is it just me? Is it just me?.
How do you let go of your anger? How do you let go of your anger?.
When You Say Nothing At All--Ronan Keating When You Say Nothing At All--Ronan Keating.
Broken Road Broken Road.
Hoax! Hoax!.
another punch in the face another punch in the face.
another day of ILYBNILWY another day of ILYBNILWY.
what do with my life what do with my life.
Grrr.! Long post. Grrr.! Long post..
Your Daily Horriblescopes. 1/5 Your Daily Horriblescopes. 1/5.
is he lying is he lying.
Big Thanks Big Thanks.
final letter final letter.
Have a nice life Have a nice life.
HELP!! How do you deal with the ex? HELP!! How do you deal with the ex? .
It doesnt actually kill you... It doesnt actually kill you....
Bounced checks and hateful words Bounced checks and hateful words.
6 Degrees of Kevin Bacon 6 Degrees of Kevin Bacon.
Next time you're in line... Next time you're in line....
for the guys - re dating someone with old (mild) abuse issues for the guys - re dating someone with old (mild) abuse issues.
The post-feminist paradox The post-feminist paradox.
The Rebound Lowdown… The Rebound Lowdown….
Your Daily Horriblescopes. 1/6 Your Daily Horriblescopes. 1/6.
Re:New to here....and here's my story Re:New to here....and here's my story.
Thank you all!!! Thank you all!!!.
I just told my wife we need to get a divorce I just told my wife we need to get a divorce.
Good Day Bad Day? Good Day Bad Day?.
Yates - I just have to vent. Yates - I just have to vent..
I havent heard from him since then I havent heard from him since then.
im new here.... im new here.....
To all the girls I've loved To all the girls I've loved.
He says that i deserve better is that his way of saying He says that i deserve better is that his way of saying.
I know its over now i feel so lost I know its over now i feel so lost.
ranting ranting.
Just when i was starting to be ok Just when i was starting to be ok.
What are they thinking What are they thinking.
Sometimes Sometimes.
My story from Maryland My story from Maryland.
why do i want someone who doesnt want me? am i nuts why do i want someone who doesnt want me? am i nuts.
What can I take from it? What can I take from it?.
when are u done with the ahole? when are u done with the ahole?.
when is it ur fault? when is it ur fault?.
Pathological Liars 'R Us Pathological Liars 'R Us.
Maryland Support - fear the turtle Maryland Support - fear the turtle.
Bump on the head hurts less than this mess Bump on the head hurts less than this mess.
Can't falls asleep Can't falls asleep.
TOP 5 SMART @SS ANSWERS FOR 2004 TOP 5 SMART @SS ANSWERS FOR 2004.
I think an extreme make over is required - ladies? I think an extreme make over is required - ladies?.
can two people feel the same love can two people feel the same love.
Re:Is tall intimidating? Re:Is tall intimidating?.
I love you but I'm not in love with you" speech... I love you but I'm not in love with you" speech....
I'm pissing myself off!! I'm pissing myself off!!.
my motivational speech my motivational speech.
I cried..... I cried......
GRR...a few things about my ex GRR...a few things about my ex.
today is the day.... today is the day.....
Please Please.
Well, now - email from MIL Well, now - email from MIL.
Your Daily Horriblescopes. 1/7 Your Daily Horriblescopes. 1/7.
i'm new and scared ... i'm new and scared ....
He said he wanted to try but... He said he wanted to try but....
My wife has left me too - I'm so lost My wife has left me too - I'm so lost.
Re:Should there be an instant attraction or connection? Re:Should there be an instant attraction or connection?.
I hate you!!!! I hate you!!!!.
need advice before i make this phone call need advice before i make this phone call.
Out of Whack? Out of Whack?.
Fear Factor!!! Fear Factor!!!.
I got invited to go out of town with some friends I got invited to go out of town with some friends.
SHE MOVES OUT THIS WEEKEND !!!! SHE MOVES OUT THIS WEEKEND !!!!.
A Poem About Us- Very Long, emotional A Poem About Us- Very Long, emotional.
Cologne? Cologne?.
I loved him since I was 15..... I loved him since I was 15......
I just told him to tell me how he feelsand heres what he said I just told him to tell me how he feelsand heres what he said.
Men confuse me! Help! Men confuse me! Help!.
not her this time, its me not her this time, its me.
More quotes... More quotes....
Re:Don't know what to do. Re:Don't know what to do..
it's final it's final.
My Unconditional Guarantee My Unconditional Guarantee.
i wish people would stop i wish people would stop.
my daughter my daughter.
Please help. too mad!! Please help. too mad!!.
you make me sick you make me sick.
Re:Had to do it... Perfume? What do you like guys?? Re:Had to do it... Perfume? What do you like guys??.
Re:a daddy for the kids Re:a daddy for the kids.
Re:? Re:?.
why cant it just go away? why cant it just go away?.
how do i know when its time to move on this is our story how do i know when its time to move on this is our story.
Re:you make me feel unimportant Re:you make me feel unimportant.
What's the scene like in the states What's the scene like in the states.
hating life hating life.
dark place right now dark place right now.
Just don't get it... Just don't get it....
Depositions Depositions.
here it is.... here it is.....
Re: what are women looking for in marriage? Re: what are women looking for in marriage?.
well, not "wonderful," but "good." well, not "wonderful," but "good.".
My Spirit is Made of Clay My Spirit is Made of Clay.
My eyebrow started twitching tonight My eyebrow started twitching tonight.
A final note A final note.
Screaming at the top of my lungs!!!! Screaming at the top of my lungs!!!!.
it's been 4 months, still not easier it's been 4 months, still not easier.
Coaster took a dive Coaster took a dive.
He says I deserve better and I know I do but He says I deserve better and I know I do but.
he hasn't called he hasn't called.
Re:we finally talked - now what? Re:we finally talked - now what?.
i found this poem i really like it it sums up my feelings check it out i found this poem i really like it it sums up my feelings check it out.
another poem I like another poem I like.
Living alone.. enjoying it?? Living alone.. enjoying it??.
Im a mess Im a mess.
Thank you, Xmas Card Exchangers! Thank you, Xmas Card Exchangers!.
funny video funny video.
I want to call her but I came here instead. I want to call her but I came here instead. .
Re:Dancing Re:Dancing.
full day #2 full day #2.
Losing Credibility Losing Credibility.
Quotes... Quotes....
Do some people just have a problem with commitment? Do some people just have a problem with commitment?.
Offended by an eight year old!!! Offended by an eight year old!!!.
My theme song for the week... My theme song for the week... .
just did something stupid just did something stupid.
Totally dorky Totally dorky.
needing someone to care needing someone to care.
this happened this happened.
he says if i need to get ahold of him to call her cell phone he says if i need to get ahold of him to call her cell phone.
don't want to think anymore don't want to think anymore.
This one I actually sent This one I actually sent.
Raise! Raise!.
he told me hes filing today he told me hes filing today.
sitting on a volcano sitting on a volcano.
Today I signed the papers this is the end ! Today I signed the papers this is the end !.
pictures of the storm pictures of the storm.
Anytime... Anytime....
Re:Hubby Homing Device Re:Hubby Homing Device.
God, Please help me... God, Please help me....
another holiday another holiday.
why do i still love you?so many unanswered questions. why do i still love you?so many unanswered questions. .
Yup, more quotes! LOL Yup, more quotes! LOL.
PLEASE READ AND ANSWER!!!!! PLEASE READ AND ANSWER!!!!!.
my most recent problem.... my most recent problem.....
stupid stupid man stupid stupid man.
I thought wrong I thought wrong.
losing sleep losing sleep.
fifteen minutes fifteen minutes.
My Story = Your Story? My Story = Your Story?.
<--- foolish <--- foolish.
CT CT.
Re:any tips from redheads? Re:any tips from redheads?.
My story My story.
don't feel i'm "in love" don't feel i'm "in love".
Do I have to leave? Do I have to leave?.
Re:Bringing us all just a bit closer... Re:Bringing us all just a bit closer....
Dating/Sex while Seperated? Dating/Sex while Seperated?.
any other kansans? any other kansans?.
Hes an idiot Hes an idiot.
Is it wrong to want to punch him in the face and kick him in the nads Is it wrong to want to punch him in the face and kick him in the nads.
all the things i really want to say,but cant all the things i really want to say,but cant.
This is deep but true This is deep but true.
doing for myself doing for myself.
Whats wrong with people Whats wrong with people.
Warning: Committing adultery may put your sanity at risk Warning: Committing adultery may put your sanity at risk.
does living your life bother them does living your life bother them.
More quotes... More quotes....
Single life friends Single life friends.
Sad and a little scared Sad and a little scared .
Just how long is this going to take? Just how long is this going to take?.
crying, lying, consequences crying, lying, consequences.
what next? what next?.
what do i do now? what do i do now?.
Dear ex, Dear ex,.
mil called mil called.
The wonderful world of denial The wonderful world of denial.
Sign the papers!!! Sign the papers!!!.
litmus tests litmus tests.
Atlantis Atlantis.
How do I Save My Marriage? How do I Save My Marriage?.
gotta get it all out gotta get it all out.
Does acting as if your doing OK work? Does acting as if your doing OK work?.
I Can't Stop Lovin' You I Can't Stop Lovin' You.
i screwed up..... i screwed up......
Always -- Saliva Always -- Saliva.
Welcome to my Life Welcome to my Life .
my password on ojar was changed, not by me!! my password on ojar was changed, not by me!!.
meltdown at work meltdown at work.
New Year, New life? New Year, New life?.
ISO, KIN, MJ: Where did the Mad Lib go? ISO, KIN, MJ: Where did the Mad Lib go?.
~AWFUL BEAUTIFUL LIFE~ ~AWFUL BEAUTIFUL LIFE~.
~I WISH~ ~I WISH~.
he got a lawyer he got a lawyer.
Letters From Home Letters From Home.
nothing without her nothing without her.
differences, do they matter? differences, do they matter?.
friends, why? friends, why?.
birthday present from kids birthday present from kids.
Why do I have trouble complimenting men? Why do I have trouble complimenting men?.
One year later....still questioning decision One year later....still questioning decision.
newbie newbie.
i called him today stupid me i called him today stupid me.
Do they really not know Do they really not know.
great stuff great stuff.
Wanting to call her Wanting to call her.
Them Bones Them Bones.
Anybody know of any ways to get a lawyer cheaper Anybody know of any ways to get a lawyer cheaper.
Know Your Rights Know Your Rights.
All Mixed Up All Mixed Up.
Bad Mood Bad Mood.
Last Cup of Sorrow Last Cup of Sorrow.
Christian Woman Christian Woman.
I went through his emails guess what I found I went through his emails guess what I found.
Bittersweet Bittersweet.
Don't Speak Don't Speak.
Someone Else? Someone Else?.
Emotional Drought Emotional Drought.
For CT For CT.
This is a classic This is a classic.
computer/human malfunction computer/human malfunction.
Still Here Still Here.
Question about "sparks"? Question about "sparks"?.
What the hell to do now??????????? What the hell to do now???????????.
changed my name on here changed my name on here.
OJar.com stats for Jan 13, 2005 OJar.com stats for Jan 13, 2005.
is there legal penalties for adultery is there legal penalties for adultery.
What am I Greiving? What am I Greiving?.
your best help is on.............. your best help is on...............
Where' the Horriblescopes? Where' the Horriblescopes? .
New set of New Years' Resolutions New set of New Years' Resolutions.
im bored im bored.
Why do they play games??? Why do they play games???.
Starting again... How to?? Starting again... How to??.
Anyone else from australia?? Anyone else from australia??.
Funny sig line I saw on another board..... Funny sig line I saw on another board......
Your Daily Horriblescopes. 1/14 Your Daily Horriblescopes. 1/14.
Wonderful Feeling... Wonderful Feeling....
Not the Reaction I wanted, feeling verystupid Not the Reaction I wanted, feeling verystupid.
More than one divorce? More than one divorce?.
recent break up after 9 yrs recent break up after 9 yrs.
new break-up my fault, help me please?! new break-up my fault, help me please?!.
women and sex - please discuss women and sex - please discuss.
Great Quotes by Women Great Quotes by Women.
It's done :( It's done :(.
this is a sex question........please help!! this is a sex question........please help!!.
my hubbys girlfriend application i found on another site!! my hubbys girlfriend application i found on another site!!.
28 and separated after 1yr of marriage 28 and separated after 1yr of marriage.
D+101 D+101.
cheating punishment cheating punishment.
My Daughter's Birthday! My Daughter's Birthday!.
Am I recovering. Am I recovering..
men please help me with this men please help me with this.
Re:Old school vs Metro??????? Re:Old school vs Metro???????.
Have a nice life Have a nice life.
Love on-line.. possible? Love on-line.. possible?.
Newbie... Newbie....
i am sad i am sad.
almost over? almost over?.
I let him take the kids for a few hours I let him take the kids for a few hours.
Does anyone ever post on OJAR after a couple of beers? Does anyone ever post on OJAR after a couple of beers?.
Re:Getting weirder by the minute Re:Getting weirder by the minute.
Been Lurking for a while Been Lurking for a while.
Am I back to square 1? Am I back to square 1?.
**appliciable chorus** **appliciable chorus**.
Re:Anyone else alarmed at the Newbie Rate? Re:Anyone else alarmed at the Newbie Rate?.
KIDS!, family and my dog. KIDS!, family and my dog..
Confused about feelings Confused about feelings.
Hey, how's it going? Hey, how's it going?.
should i contact her should i contact her.
Have a nice life Have a nice life.
Im going out tonight im excited Im going out tonight im excited.
head vs heart head vs heart.
Have a nice life Have a nice life.
restraining order? restraining order?.
Ride's getting lazy;) Ride's getting lazy;).
Online Dating? Online Dating?.
Your Daily Horriblescopes. 1/15 Your Daily Horriblescopes. 1/15.
Message in a bottle Message in a bottle.
~It's Been Awhile~ ~It's Been Awhile~.
~What Am I To You~ ~What Am I To You~.
stages of seperation stages of seperation.
~She Will Be Loved~ ~She Will Be Loved~.
~Leaving New York~ ~Leaving New York~.
I don't know what i feel I don't know what i feel.
As a Child I Dreamed of Space As a Child I Dreamed of Space.
General Question about cheating General Question about cheating.
whats wrong with me............... whats wrong with me................
UpDate for those who remember me UpDate for those who remember me.
Does anyone else feel like they're in a dark place? Does anyone else feel like they're in a dark place?.
If separation can you still have a study love If separation can you still have a study love.
Ouch Ouch.
Should I trust my wife---need advice Should I trust my wife---need advice.
Hot Sex = great relationship? Hot Sex = great relationship?.
Love and Limerence Love and Limerence.
i am so confused!!! i am so confused!!!.
Man...do I have issues. . . Man...do I have issues. . ..
My Wife Wont Sleep With Me, But If She Had A Chance With Someone Else She Would. My Wife Wont Sleep With Me, But If She Had A Chance With Someone Else She Would..
Sense of Independence Sense of Independence.
went somewhere i avoided went somewhere i avoided.
Great book Great book.
Movie that bares a striking resemblance to end my marraige. Movie that bares a striking resemblance to end my marraige..
Divorced Divorced.
I love you but i am with her I love you but i am with her.
To my family and friends To my family and friends.
Re:How do I win back my wifes love? How do I act? Re:How do I win back my wifes love? How do I act?.
Your Daily Horriblescopes. 1/17 Your Daily Horriblescopes. 1/17.
Re:New to the board. My story Re:New to the board. My story.
Still angry about the whole 'kids' thing... Still angry about the whole 'kids' thing....
Tip Up Town.......... Tip Up Town...........
Really wanting to remain friends.... Really wanting to remain friends.....
Re:Ojar Anonymous Re:Ojar Anonymous.
Miserable Miserable.
Feeling down Feeling down .
I'm back.....for now.... I'm back.....for now.....
I feel depressed today dont know why I feel depressed today dont know why.
What I want vs what everyone thinks What I want vs what everyone thinks.
Do you think this is abusive? Do you think this is abusive?.
married at 18 divorce at 21 married at 18 divorce at 21.
Re:Attention Ladies: A Good Catch Re:Attention Ladies: A Good Catch.
Help me !!! Help me !!!.
Kids' Birthday Kids' Birthday.
Do I write this person... Do I write this person....
warped thinking? warped thinking? .
Re:Backstabbed... heartbroken... need help Re:Backstabbed... heartbroken... need help.
Updated status :) Updated status :).
Re:Grandma Again Re:Grandma Again.
Re:Remarrying your Ex Re:Remarrying your Ex.
I took the first step.... but it feels horrible!! I took the first step.... but it feels horrible!!.
~Holy Water~ ~Holy Water~.
~Here's To The End~ ~Here's To The End~.
WHY???? WHY????.
Women at lunch Women at lunch.
alcohol problem? alcohol problem?.
Great Reasons to be single Great Reasons to be single.
Lost Cause Lost Cause.
Re:I'm bitter, but who cares!!!! Re:I'm bitter, but who cares!!!!.
Devil Without A Cause Devil Without A Cause.
Paradise City Paradise City.

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