Should you consider hiring private investigators during indidelity?
If you suspect your spouse is cheating you may need to hire a private investigator. Now there is a lot of debate if you can do this yourself, especially now that there are tools you can use in the home which may bypass the need to hire a private investigator for example, there is software to snoop on cell phones, or email software.
But, if you’ve decided you want someone else to do the snoop here are some reasons why you should consider an outsider.
The first reason is you want a professional with all the right snooping equipment to do the job and not have you discovered. For many couples that are suspicious, if you get discovered you will blow the investigation and the other person will either confront you or possibly hide their deeds even further.
You don’t want to put yourself in physical danger. Sitting in a parked car at 2 a.m. in a seedy neighborhood as you wait for your spouse to exit a motel is dangerous. Private investigator are well aware of the risks and know how to protect themselves from local thugs if a problem were to arise.
Another reason is it takes expensive equipment to do the job properly, not to mention training in the use of the equipment. I might add there are legal implications, depending on where you live on using this type of equipment. For example, do you know how to properly use a personal GPS tracker? Do you know how to use infrared camera and have the images developed? Do you even know where to buy this equipment or how much to pay for it? Probably not, therefore you want to leave it to the investigator that has already invested in the training and the equipment.
Another reason is the skills required to interview potential witnesses to the cheating spouse activity. There is a skill required to asking the right questions or maybe giving a little financial tip to the local waitress or bartender to get the required information without making it obvious that you are the jealous spouse.
Private investigator has the credentials and private investigator license if questioned by local police if they are found sitting in a parked car. If you try it you may be suspected of checking out a location for illegal purposes, so yet again you want someone like a professional that can comply with all local rules and make sure the results are accurate.
Also, be aware that in some locations the name of this profession is a little different. For example, in Los Angeles Private Detective is the correct term. Also, you’ll find it used in New York as in Private Detective. Sometimes they are called, fraud investigation or security consultants. It just depends on where you happen to live.
How do you find a reputable Private Investigator to hire? First, many are listed in the yellow pages often with their credentials. Sometimes a private insurance companies have these people on payroll and a quick chat with your local insurance broker may lead you to a professional in the area. Also, you want to check on any professional qualifications and ensure that you aren’t getting an amateur to do the work that requires a professional.
Here are some state based associations which can help you find the right person
Here are two paragraphs from Wikipedia, which summarize the role of Private Investigators, which you may find useful.
A private investigator or private detective is a person who can be hired by individuals or groups to undertake investigator law services. Private detectives/investigators often work for attorneys in civil cases. Many work for insurance companies to investigate suspicious claims. Before the advent of no-fault divorce, many private investigators were hired to search out evidence of adultery or other illegal conduct within marriage to establish grounds for a divorce. Despite the lack of legal necessity for such evidence in many jurisdictions, according to press reports collecting evidence of adultery or other “bad behavior” by spouses and partners is still one of the most profitable activities investigators undertake, as the stakes being fought over now are child custody, alimony, or marital property disputes.
Many jurisdictions require PIs to be licensed, and they may or may not carry firearms depending on local laws. Some are ex-police officers, some are former federal agents, some are ex-spies and some are ex-military, some used to work in a private military company, some are former bodyguards and security guards, although many are not. Most of them do not arrest criminals or put them in custody. They are expected to keep detailed notes and to be prepared to testify in court regarding any of their observations on behalf of their clients. Great care is required to remain within the scope of the law; otherwise the investigator may face criminal charges. Irregular hours may also be required when performing surveillance work.
If you think there is a chance to sort things out you may wish to see this interview with the Infidelity Coach