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    Do you live in an “as is” or “should be” world?

    By on August 26, 2007


    As you can imagine I get a lot of emails from people on the
    Internet. While I am happy to get feedback there are just not
    enough hours in the day for me to reply to each individually.

    A common theme struck me this week as I reviewed some of the emails
    I had received.

    Some people agreed with what I had said but there were a few that
    felt, "Michael you might be right BUT..."

    Unless I am mistaken, the BUT all but ignores anything I have just
    stated so I am going to call this post, are you living in a "should
    be" or a "as is" world?

    It goes something like this...

    On most issues of importance the world can be divided basically in
    those that strongly see things how they are or how they should be.

    Let me share an example.

    As many of you know I publish a report called, "Get Over Your Ex".
    It is about 50 pages and sets out a series of 21-steps that I
    regard essential to overcoming heartache.

    It can be found here,


    Now these steps are based on my own observations and for hundreds
    of people the steps have helped enormously. I frequently get emails
    thanking me for the product.

    But then there are those that have never read the product that
    write, "if you have something helpful then you should be giving it
    away without charge". Their argument is essentially information
    should never have a cost and more importantly the Internet is a
    no-cost environment. In other words, they argue their position from a
    perspective of the way the world "should be".

    The "as is" people know that time taken to create something should
    be rewarded. They also know that "you get what you pay for" and if
    the item were given away it would probably never be read.

    Now I know this is a simple example but this also happens in
    relationships. An example from the emails I get is, "my partner
    treats me very badly but he/she LOVES me". They then ask in the
    email, what should I do?

    If you live in the world of, "as is" the answer is obvious and it
    requires no answer from me.

    However, if you live in the world of "should be" then you're
    probably thinking, love conquers all and it is only time before
    this nasty person comes to their senses and starts treating you the
    way they are SUPPOSED to treat you.

    See the difference?

    I won't labor the point but next time you confront someone
    complaining about a situation (this includes yourself) ask
    yourself, is this person living in the world of "as is" or "should

    Talk soon,

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