Dealing With Failure. Isn’t it OUR fault?
I just spent the last few days at a business conference in Texas. If you’ve ever spent much time at a business conference you will know that part of the time you spend is time spent networking. Meeting other people in your industry, swapping stories and learning what works and what doesn’t work.
What amazed me was the way that each person dealt differently with success and failure. Of course, success in business is always envied and studied but somehow it seems at least to me that failure isn’t. This got me thinking about relationships.
Why do we spend so much time trying to get into a relationship when so many of us don’t even take the time to give ourselves a short kick in the behind for repeating the mistakes we just made ‘last time around’?
In business as in relationships we all have mental blueprints or to put it another way, “a way of doing things”.
If you have the desire to make changes in your life you have to first admit that what doesn’t work is your fault.
Yes, I said it.
If it didn’t work it was your fault.
Now I know there will be those that say, “but my situation is different”.
But, unless you take responsibility for what happens and really question yourself were their clues before things went bad, or were there things you could do differently do you have the potential to ever change things?
I personally doubt it.
I met several business people that complained that their business went bad because of the morons they hired.
Hmmm… who hired them?
Then I heard from some people at this conference that told me that dated and married someone was dishonest and it didn’t work out.
Hmm… were there big red flags?
I think it is time for us to stop blaming everyone else when things don’t work out.
It’s time to take responsibility.
What do you think?
You can discuss this topic here.
Till next time, Michael.
P.s. For those that are tired of hurting, see my report about getting over your Ex here and start dealing with “failure”.