“A husband and wife may disagree on many things but they must absolutely agree on this: to never, ever give up.” So when it comes time to fixing a broken marriage you’ll both find that it takes patience, communication, and understanding.” – a really good quote when you need to fix a broken marriage.
To make things a little easier, here are four tips.
Take Time Off Away From Work – this is key.
Work is stressful and when you are not in a good place with your relationship then you might need to take a break from work. This will give you time to clear your head, think clearly and begin the process without distractions. Remember, there is a huge financial fallout if the marriage fails which is much larger than a shortfall in taking some time off work. It also gives you a chance to spend more time together as a couple.
Talk About Your Feelings – without judging..
Once you’ve taken some time away from work, talk about how you feel. Ask each other questions like “What are you feeling right now?” and “How does this make you feel?” You might even try writing down your feelings and then reading them back to each other. Set aside the time to better understand each other’s perspective.
Find Someone Who Can Give You Advice – not a family member.
It’s not uncommon for people who are struggling with a relationship to seek advice from friends and family members. This is problematic and can make things much worse. These individuals are emotionally involved and aren’t able to offer sound advice because they haven’t been through what you’re going through. Instead, find someone who has experienced similar situations and can give you advice based on their own experiences. There are far better qualified therapists that have direct experience of these kinds of issues.
Find Out Why You Are Fighting – it’s often not what you think.
One of the biggest reasons why couples fight is because they don’t understand each other. Previous relationships and family upbringings can alter your view a lot. This is especially true when one partner wants to make changes in their life while the other does not. In order to fix a broken marriage, both partners need to work together to come up with solutions that will benefit them both. Compromises are key and often finding out what the underlying causes of the fight can make all the difference.
Remember, your marriage affects more than just the two of you. It also affects the family, children and friends you have that are involved in your lives.
How To Fix A Broken Marriage Books – a short list.
- Learn How to Reduce Insecurity in a Few Simple Moves, Fight Anxiety, Jealousy, Couple Conflicts, Codependency, and Overcome Attachment for a Calm Relationship by Amanda Sutton
- The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts by Gary Chapman
- Relationship Goals: How to Win at Dating, Marriage, and Sex by Michael Todd
- The Sacred Search: What If It’s Not about Who You Marry, But Why? by Gary Thomas
- Comprehensive Guide to a Solid, Healthy and Lasting Marriage by Jimmy Evans
Here is a longer list how to fix a broken marriage books
A Great Movie Scarlett Johansson and Adam Driver in Marriage Story
So many great lessons on fixing a marriage before things become a crises. Here’s a clip.